Children with slow cognitive time are children in general, slow for everything: to eat, to dress or to do their homework. For them, "time" is something very difficult to handle, and many times no matter how much they try to go faster, they cannot, time is slipping away from them.
It is very important to bear in mind that the problem is not a matter of the child's ability or disobedience, therefore it is important not to punish or penalize the child for his slowness, since it is something over which the child does not have much control. But what can parents of children with slow cognitive time do to help them?
Children with slow cognitive time often struggle academically as well as at home. They are children who lose things, are disorganized, (especially their thinking), they forget things, they are in the clouds, they seem unmotivated by everything, performing academic and daily tasks takes a long time, they seem tired all day or drowsy. They also show self-esteem problems, since they often hear phrases like, "hurry up", "always last", "run" ... In addition, their academic results are not as desired.
At home, parents have to get used to the idea that, no matter how much we ask them to run doing activities or tasks at home, (homework, getting dressed, having breakfast ...) it will not be "as fast" as we want, so be patient, otherwise we will only despair and frustrate him. Remember, it is not slow for pleasure, it is its "natural rhythm".
At home there are some guidelines that can help us:
- Simplify tasks, go step by step. It can help us to make tables with routines, step by step so that you can review the steps you are taking and do not forget any. "I undress, then I put my clothes in the laundry basket, then I take my pajamas, I put them on."
- Give them more time to complete tasks. If I ask you to set the table, it will take a while to get down to it, and once you start, it will take time to set it. So we have to give him reaction time.
- DO NOT get mad at him for his slowness.
- Give them time to do their homework. We can help ourselves with a clock with hands indicating how much time they have to do something, (eat, dress, pick up ...) With hands, the time that passes or the time that remains is usually better, it is more visual.
- Find activities that motivate and stimulate youThis way, your brains will start up and work better. We can go recording their achievements: "Yesterday you did 8 sums, today you did 10", for example, and in this way reinforce their achievements and motivate them.
Academically they are children who need more time to process information, so they will not keep up with the class, they get lost in explanations, they will need more time to perform the same tasks as their peers, they answer questions more slowly because they need more time to process the information.
Therefore the adaptations in the classroom are necessary for them. Give them more time to answer questions, both oral and written, reduce the number of questions on the exam (not the difficulty) or do it in two days. In short, give them more time. Break them down into steps so they don't skip any of them, redirect their attention when we see that they are in the clouds, but without drawing their attention.
In any case, children with a slow pace, such as children with ADHD, or dyslexia, in addition to the adjustments in the classroom and at home, may need support or professional help, who works with them and stimulates and helps the child to improve. your "speed", or acquire guidelines and tools to manage your time, for example, in addition to giving you the emotional support you need, (since sometimes your self-esteem is affected)
When should we turn to it? When those difficulties or that slow pace significantly interfere with your daily, social or emotional lifeIt is recommended that a specialist evaluate and work both with the child and with us, the parents, giving us guidelines and advice to understand and help our child at home.
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