Teaching your child how to get dressed

Teaching your child how to get dressed

Why your child needs to learn how to get dressed

Learning to get dressed builds your child's confidence and independence and gives your child a sense of achievement. And once your child can dress himself, helping him get dressed is one less thing for you to do.

Also, getting dressed helps your child develop many other skills, including:

  • fine motor skills as she learns to fasten buttons and zips
  • gross motor skills as she stands on one leg to pull on a pair of pants
  • cognitive skills as she remembers which bits of clothing go on first, and builds the patience and attention to finish the task
  • language as she names types of clothes, colours and sizes
  • awareness of time and space as she learns to dress for certain occasions and weather conditions.

Getting started with getting dressed

Often very young children start to be aware of clothing by pulling off easy-to-remove things like socks, shoes or hats. Sometimes they try to put them on again. You can build on this early awareness by naming the clothes your child has taken off and the body parts they go on.

You can start to include your older baby or toddler in getting dressed by giving him a limited choice of clothes, and naming them as you put them on him.

When you decide it's time for your child to really start learning this skill, it can help to have some easy clothes on hand. These might include:

  • loose, elastic-waisted pants
  • clothes with velcro or large buttons and button holes
  • jumpers, t-shirts and underwear with pictures on the front to help your child work out front from back
  • clothes that are easy and comfortable for your child to move in.

Getting dressed: breaking down the steps

Getting dressed can have a lot of steps. It helps to break it down into smaller steps - for example, putting on underwear, then t-shirt, shorts, socks and shoes.

You can also break down each of the steps in getting dressed, depending on your child's skill and age. For example, you could break down the steps for putting on shorts like this:

  • Face shorts the right way.
  • Hold onto the front of the waistband.
  • Push one leg at a time through the leg holes while also holding pants.
  • Pull the shorts up.

Talking your child through each step helps her know what to do. In the early stages, simple words or phrases are OK - for example, 'Shirt on'. You can say more as your child's language develops - for example, 'Push your arm through the sleeve'.

When your child can almost dress himself (usually from three years and up), you can check whether he understands the steps by asking, 'What's the first thing you need to put on?' If he can't remember, you can help him get started by reminding him.

Getting dressed: teaching the steps backwards

A good way to teach your child how to get dressed is to break down each task into small steps and teach her the last step first. Once your child can do the last step of the task, teach her the second-last step, then the third-last step and so on.

For example, when putting on shorts, you might help your child face the shorts the right way, hold the waistband and put his legs through the leg holes. Then teach your child the last step - pulling up the shorts to his waist by himself.

Once your child can do this, teach her to put her legs through the leg holes and pull her shorts up. You can keep working your way backwards through the steps until your child has mastered them all and can put her shorts on for herself.

A big advantage of this approach is that often the most rewarding thing about a task is getting it finished - and your child gets to this reward sooner when he can do the last step first.

If your child is having trouble, it can be tempting to jump in to help. But give your child a chance to work it out for herself, and cheer her on as she tries - she'll get a real confidence boost when she does it on her own. Step in only when your child really needs your help.

Tips for helping your child learn to get dressed

If you can be positive and supportive, your child is more likely to cooperate. So a lot of praise will go a long way, even if your child has put his pants on backwards! Here are some practical tips to help.

Making time

  • Allow a realistic amount of time for getting dressed.
  • If you're often rushed in the morning, try choosing clothes with your child the night before.
  • When you're in a hurry, let your child do the easy tasks and help her with the difficult tasks.
  • Practise getting dressed when you and your child aren't in a hurry or tired.

Choosing appropriate clothes

  • Let your younger child choose from a couple of options, like two t-shirts. Older or more mature children might be able to choose their own clothing.
  • Talk about the weather when you and your child are choosing clothes. Ask your child whether it's hot or cold, raining or sunny.
  • Teach your child the difference between dirty and clean clothes - for example, 'Dirty clothes go in the laundry basket. You can wear them again when they're back in the drawer'. You can use some simple guidelines, like wearing clean underwear and socks every day.

Making it easier

  • Have your child sit down for dressing tasks. Sitting on the floor might be easier than sitting on a chair or bed for some children.
  • Store clothing in drawers and cupboards that your child can get to easily. Label clothing drawers with a picture or word to describe the clothing that's in the drawer.
  • Wear clothes that have clear front and back clues - for example, a picture on the front and a tag on the back.
  • Teach undressing first - it's easier than dressing. Being able to undress by himself will boost your child's confidence.

Tying up shoelaces is a skill that most five-year-olds are still learning. Our handy illustrated guide to tying shoelaces outlines some easy steps for teaching your child this skill.

Teaching children with disability or developmental delay to get dressed

Some children with disability or developmental delays can have trouble getting dressed. Some children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) have sensory sensitivities that make it hard for them to cope with the texture of different materials on their skin.

If you're having trouble teaching your child with disability or development delay to get dressed, an occupational therapist who works specifically with children might be able to help. OTs can give you strategies to teach your child to dress, or suggest equipment that can make the process easier.

Development of skills for getting dressed

Here's a rough guide to dressing skills at different ages. Keep in mind that every child is different and will develop skills at different rates.

At one year children can usually:

  • hold their arms out for sleeves and put their feet up for shoes
  • push their arms through sleeves and legs through pants
  • pull socks and shoes off.

At two years children can usually:

  • take off unfastened coats
  • take off shoes when the laces are untied
  • help push down pants
  • find armholes in t-shirts.

At 2½ years children can usually:

  • pull down pants with elastic waists
  • try to put on socks
  • put on front-buttoned shirts, without doing up buttons
  • unbutton large buttons.

At three years children can usually:

  • put on t-shirts with little help
  • put on shoes without fastening - they might put them on the wrong feet
  • put on socks - they might have trouble getting their heels in the right place
  • pull down pants by themselves
  • zip and unzip without joining or separating zippers
  • take off t-shirts without help
  • button large front buttons.

At four years children can usually:

  • take off t-shirts by themselves
  • buckle shoes or belts
  • connect jacket zippers and zip them up
  • put on socks the right way
  • put on shoes with little help
  • know the front and back of clothing.

At 4½ years children can usually:

  • step into pants and pull them up
  • thread belts through buckles.

At five years children can usually:

  • dress without your help or supervision
  • put on t-shirts or jumpers the right way each time.